I am a psychotherapist, writer, wellbeing consultant, and above all, a human being with a heart, seeking to reduce suffering in myself and in the world.
I have specialised in the last 15 years helping children, families, and adults to thrive, by freeing themselves from emotional and practical blockages. I have achieved this though a private practice, as well as working with local authorities, and charities such as Centrepoint and Kids Company, where I helped design and then manage a therapeutic education provision for some of London's most damaged teenagers. I have also worked as a Consultant on issues related to psychological, and spiritual wellbeing, consulting organisations such as Headspace, where I helped conceive a mindfulness app for kids.
My greatest joy is to see how easily, given the right conditions, a human being can experience freedom from the inherited patterns that are causing him/her to suffer. I believe this is particularly true with children. Children can inspire adults with their lightness.
I found myself in various spots of bother as a teenager. And it was through the unfolding of these moments, and the growth they asked of me, that I realised my life was a path of discovery, to better understand myself and the world around me. On this journey, I discovered wisdom from people all around the world: from studies of Surrealist philosophy, Postcolonial Political Psychology, and an intensive Transpersonal Integrative Psychotherapy training in the UK, to sitting with Tamil Tigers in East Sri Lanka, staying at ashrams and family homes around India, retreating to Buddhist monasteries in the forests of mid-Thailand, in Sri Lanka, and India. However, I have learned most from the clients I have worked with over the last 15 years, those human beings that found the courage to evolve, in spite of often extreme, traumatising, soul-restricting environments. Through this whole kaleidoscope of beautiful and challenging encounters, my eyes have gradually been opened to some common truths that unite us all as human beings. The most common, profound truth revealed to me has been that unconditional love is the highest state we can experience as human beings. My philosophy is thus simply based on unconditional love, an ideal that needs courage, fearless self-awareness, and discipline, to have any chance of becoming manifest.
I incorporate different traditions and alternative, radical forms of wisdom into my work, as I believe that the main stream of conditioning in the West is causing more harm than good on the psychological plane. One of the problems I have become aware of in the West is an almost insatiable need to drive forward in the name of progress, blind to the trail of destruction we leave in our wake. It is not surprising that depression is now the second greatest Health problem in America and Europe after heart disease, that more than 1 in every 10 children in America has a diagnosis of ADHD, and that about one in five children in the UK will have a mental health problem in any given year.
To address these destructive ways of being in the world, I believe we need to turn back to our nature, to our roots. The idea of 'A Quiet Evolution' captures the way in which nature can show us how to grow, to flourish, to thrive, without destroying everything around us. In the Bible, there is a saying: 'see the lilies, how they grow, they neither toil nor spin.' I believe that before we change the world around us, we need to slow down, to be quiet, to find space to look inside ourselves. When we do this, there is a natural and effortless process of healing that we can tap into and grow from.